Love is a complicated issue.
It’s an issue we’ve all dealt with, in one way or another, our entire lives. You’d probably be
surprised how many of your personal issues can be traced back to love—it being
withheld, or tainted in some way. Love is ubiquitous in life’s story. When people
say that we’re losing any sort of common ground with the lost I always think, That’s
not possible! We all need love! Love, or lack thereof, affects almost
everything we do. As I’ve said, it’s that which we all need and strive for. But
it’s also something that we have a difficult time accepting.
In the religious tradition in which I grew up, we talked a
lot about what we weren’t supposed to do. There was a junk-load of
conversations about sin and getting better every
day in every way, but—to my memory—there
wasn’t a lot of love to give that stuff context. So, God became a
taskmaster so that I flinch a little when I hear His name.
Needless to say, I didn’t grow up with a very healthy idea
of what love was.
And so this idea of God’s grace has been a tad intimidating
for me to get grasp on. My concept of God-love has been, whether I want to
admit it or not, tit-for-tat. Now that I think about it, that’s probably the same idea
that a lot of us have, and most likely the assumption that pulls us in weird
directions. It’s the impression that God’s
love for us only becomes available once we are saved.
That idea may not be the answer you’d give to an essay
question on the topic of God’s love, but it might be what you actually believe
deep down, where it can do the most
damage. Even after all these years, that sinister thought has been dwelling
in my head until I recently came to blows with it. If asked, neither would I have told you God didn’t love you before
he saved you. I would have cheerfully said that he loves the lost, and seeks
after them.
But there was always a squeak of a voice somewhere
deep
inside,
saying:
“Yeah, but not in the same way.”
saying:
“Yeah, but not in the same way.”
Last night, at around one, (because I’m an idiot who doesn’t
know how to go to bed at a decent time) I was lying there, thinking about this.
And this morning, I saw a tweet from a pastor named Scott Sauls, who I don’t
know from Adam, that quoted John 8:11, where Jesus is talking to the woman caught in adultery, that says, "Neither do I condemn you. Go, and sin no more." and this guy tweeted, “if you reverse the order of
these sentences, you no longer have Christianity.”
That hit me really hard (in
the best of ways) and sort of finished my thought on this topic of when and why
we are loved. He doesn't ask us to clean up before we come to Him. We do. But God doesn't. (And that's a problem.) But Christ's response begs the questions and gives the answers:
Why are we loved? Because God loves us.
When did we start being loved? Always.
Paul said that “while we were still sinners, Christ
Jesus died for us.” (Rom. 5:8) That utterly crushes any idea that anything secured the love of God.
Love is why He came for us in the first place.
If you think that your Salvation was what made you lovable
then you will conversely believe that those who have not found the free gift of
God in Christ are hated. "Go, and sin no more. Then God won't condemn you," we lie. That’s the danger I talked about earlier. And it’s not
just some potential, theoretical danger.
We see it every day.
Christians holding up picket signs that say, “God hates
fags!” Believers burning down abortion clinics. Followers supporting other followers
who say extremely hateful things in the name of God. This and a million other
things, all because those outside of the body are somehow less to us. Those for whom
Christ died that have yet to, and may
never, find his grace, but are made in His image, and loved desperately
nonetheless.
WHILE WE WERE STILL SINNERS… Christ died for us.
You want to talk about dangerous. That’s dangerous.
Dangerous in the best possible way. It’s dangerous to judgment. It’s dangerous
to hate. It’s dangerous to legalistic manipulators who get a thrill from
controlling others.
Think about it:
How does knowing that God knew you, depravity and all,
before the foundation of the Earth, and loved you, affect what you believe? How
does that affect how you serve him? How you treat others? When you really get
your head wrapped around it; when you actually let your doubting heart believe
it,
it
will
change everything.
“Neither do I condemn you. Go, and sin no more.”
If God loves you, you don’t have to work for His love. Now
go love Him. If God loves sinners, you don’t have to make non-Christians lovable (that
was never your job, anyway!). Go love them. You were, and are, and will be,
loved. Go, and sin no more.
That scares yesterday’s dinner out some people. “But,” they
want to say. “Don’t forget to add,” they politely remind you. “Well, you don’t
want to encourage sin,” they say, patting you on the head.
Did you know you don’t lose brain cells if you drink. That was
a “lie for the greater good” made up during the temperance movement to
discourage people from drinking. Can you believe that? I’ve believed that lie all
my life. Here’s the thing—it never kept me from drinking too much, but it sure
made me feel guilty afterwards.
We sort of tell a lie of omission “for the greater good”
when we don’t present the full Gospel. Because
the Gospel scares us. We’re afraid if we tell non-Christians that Christ died for sinners because they might not get better. We don't tell Christians they're forgiven because we're scared they’ll
go crazy and rob a liquor store or hire a prostitute! We’re terrified to let Christians
know that God loves them, and always has, because part of us believes they’ll
walk away. So we load them down with guilty burdens until they actually do walk
away.
Then we say, “Well, they must have never been believers to begin with.”
You want to feel guilt? You should feel guilt for that.
(But, go to Him. He forgives you.)
Knowing that I’m forgiven. That I stand before God with the
righteousness of Christ credited to me. That there’s nothing I can do to
lessen God’s love for me. That even when He doesn’t like what I’m doing, He
doesn’t walk away—He pursues me, because of that love. Well, that makes me want
to give Him everything I am. It makes me want to learn God’s ways and be more
like Him.
That’s Him working in me.
Guilt may drive a person for a time. But it will eventually
destroy them.
Love, on the other hand. Love makes you do crazy things.
(Just not the ones you may be worried about.)
Just now able to write out a comment. ;) But.... this in particular:
ReplyDelete"If you think that your Salvation was what made you loveable then you will conversely believe that those who have not found the free gift of God in Christ are hated. "Go, and sin no more. Then God won't condemn you," we lie. That’s the danger I talked about earlier. And it’s not just some potential, theoretical danger."
OH MY YESSSS!!!! Always heard this preached. Always. BUT When I read it, I realized that I still had some form of belief about that...because when I read it, it made me uncomfortable. Grace is uncomfortable. :)
This whole thing is so good though. So. Good. Your writing is spot on and has such a sense of real-ness to it. Amen dude. :) Keep on writing. (Ok..I'll stop fangirling now....bah! The dorkiness just is relentless...it really is..
-Sarah